How are white men generally treated when they are married/dating black women?
What_to_do asked:
I am a white male, currently finishing my degree in the U.S., and would like to bring my wife (who is black) to join me here (I have American citizenship as well). However, a friend of mine strongly advised me against it, saying that he and his black girlfriend were constantly harrassed. Is this advice founded? Any experiences, positive or negative?
I am a white male, currently finishing my degree in the U.S., and would like to bring my wife (who is black) to join me here (I have American citizenship as well). However, a friend of mine strongly advised me against it, saying that he and his black girlfriend were constantly harrassed. Is this advice founded? Any experiences, positive or negative?
January 30th, 2001 at 6:54 am
Depends where you live.
Can either be direct or subtle.
Truth is it’ll cause a glass ceiling.
So get done what you need done, figure out what you’re gonna do after that give the idiots the word from the bird.
February 1st, 2001 at 8:30 am
It is a challenge - true love will overcome this.
February 1st, 2001 at 6:59 pm
First I would like to say…who cares what others think, that’s your wife…whats wrong with you?
second, I think it depends on were you live, in general, it is so common that it does not matter too much.
February 2nd, 2001 at 9:15 am
It depends on where you live. If you live in the South you will likely encounter some snide comments. At the very least, people will definitely stare at you enough to make you uncomfortable (I know this from personal experience).
If you live in a big city or in California, people will treat you normally. San Francisco or Seattle are good choices here.
I’d bring your wife with you anyway. You shouldn’t be without your woman simply because of other people’s shortcomings.
February 4th, 2001 at 2:04 am
Would you really let your friend dissuade you from reuniting with your wife? This problem isn’t limited to the U.S. anyway, so you would probably face some degree of resistance anywhere you two went. Our experience has been across the board, positive and negative, warm embraces to having bottles and insults thrown at us. It depends on the openness of the people you’re dealing with. But to do this, you gotta be willing to walk through the fire at times for your relationship.
February 6th, 2001 at 7:42 pm
GOOD QUESTION i wouldnt know– but if any black honeys on here wanna show me, let me know
February 6th, 2001 at 10:47 pm
don’t let your friend persuade you from bringing your wife. whats wrong with him?
February 8th, 2001 at 2:19 pm
Your friend is only giving you that advice because he is trying to help you avoid the heartache many *********** couples face. I think you should be with your wife, no matter what her colour is. Im a black girl here in the USA (North Western) and Im dating a white guy… sometimes we get stares and negative comments, but thats about it. No one has been violent towards us or extremely hostile. You kind of get used to that and learn to ignore it.