Question for married women or dating women?
kikio asked:
Do any of you have a husband or boyfriend who, as soon as you leave the room, turns on a show that is full of ****** laden women and then as soon as you walk in, he turns it off right away? How do you feel when he does that? Do you feel any loss of respect? Do you say anything? Just curious because my hubby has been doing it alot lately. Caught him last night watching Girls Next Door, which we all know is not a show that’s based on its intriguing dialogue and plot, so I’m sure he was hoping to get a glimpse of some skin and ****. As soon as I walked in he turned it off. I said he didn’t have to change it just because I was there but he said it was stupid anyway and was all embarrassed. I just think he should be up front with what he watches, not sneakly like some 13 year old boy who is looking at a Playboy book. I am well aware that he did not turn the show on for it’s storyline. Any input ladies?
Do any of you have a husband or boyfriend who, as soon as you leave the room, turns on a show that is full of ****** laden women and then as soon as you walk in, he turns it off right away? How do you feel when he does that? Do you feel any loss of respect? Do you say anything? Just curious because my hubby has been doing it alot lately. Caught him last night watching Girls Next Door, which we all know is not a show that’s based on its intriguing dialogue and plot, so I’m sure he was hoping to get a glimpse of some skin and ****. As soon as I walked in he turned it off. I said he didn’t have to change it just because I was there but he said it was stupid anyway and was all embarrassed. I just think he should be up front with what he watches, not sneakly like some 13 year old boy who is looking at a Playboy book. I am well aware that he did not turn the show on for it’s storyline. Any input ladies?
January 21st, 2001 at 9:08 pm
Bottom line. Men like to look at women. He thinks that if he were to sit in front of the TV gaulking at hot chics, that you might get upset.
January 23rd, 2001 at 7:57 am
My husband watches it (and adult movies) when I’m in the room, or alseep on the couch. LOL I kinda look at it like i would with a 13 year old boy. If you make to bigga deal out of it the thrill is going to be more, and he will want to do it more.
I don’t understand the whole thing, especially when he flips it to the girls next door… I usually get a sarcastic comdey routine of my own running lol and he laughs along with me. LIke OMG, I’ve not shown my **** off to the enitre world today, how can I sleep
If it really bothers you though, talk to him about it.
January 24th, 2001 at 4:21 am
hmmm, not sure… I think some men go to work and brag about this or that… even if what they are bragging about is not true… they brag anyway… hmmm… I think some men may feel left out… but, a husband should think more of what his wife thinks of him then the men at work… ask him…next time, if he really thought the show was dumb…whatever show it may be… next time you see him doing this… or just casually bring up, what do you guys talk about at work, lol… I don’t know… certain things should never be watched, then one would not have to be up front about it, lol =)
January 27th, 2001 at 1:19 pm
It doesn’t bother me. Of course, if he’s watching something like that he might actually say something to me to look and then we comment together.
Of course, some men are actually modest or shy about talking about *** or ************ especially with women. It’s not a lack of respect thing, it’s a comfort level thing.
January 28th, 2001 at 9:18 pm
The fact that he turned it off shows he has a great deal of respect for you. I would be glad that he did that. Of course it would be nice if he didn’t feel the need to watch that crap at all but it doesn’t seem like he’s that type of man does it?
The fact that he’s sneaking isn’t good but the fact that he doesn’t just continue to watch it with you there and is insensitive to your feelings is good.
I think you need to realize that SOME men look at women like that. Thankfully I didn’t pick a man like that.
January 30th, 2001 at 10:03 pm
Big deal, just change it back so that the junk is back on when he returns? That’s one sure fire way to get him to open up. Sure it’s garbage but it gives some knuckleheads a fantasy, which is healthy. Don’t get uptight. Or, maybe you could parade around the house with similar outfits once in awhile. Check out the many online sleezy shops and treat yourself. I don’t think he’ll have a problem with that.
February 2nd, 2001 at 4:38 am
I have to honestly say that I do not share in your problem. My husband doesn’t like to watch that stuff at all. Not every man is a stereotypical **** and **** watcher. I can say one thing though, honesty is really the best policy. Let him know how you feel, but don’t nag him. Be polite and respectful when you approach him. Do not try to assassinate his character.
Don’t keep things that bother you, like this, to yourself. It will just build up into something bigger later on down the road.
My husband and I believe that once you are married that you do as the vow you took said and forsake all others. That includes not watching it on TV, or in magazines, at the mall, going down the sidewalk, or where ever else. Jesus said that if you look at a woman (or man) w/ lust, that you’ve already committed adultery w/ her (or him) in your heart. I see how catching him watching these things could make you lose some respect for him and make you feel like he doesn’t respect you. I doubt that his intent is deliberate though.
Do I think your husband is purposely cheating? No, I’m sure he doesn’t know. The thing is though, is that he feels uncomfortable watching it w/ you in the room, and it seems, perhaps, guilty too. Say something to him, but remember to be respectful and you will get a respectful response.
February 3rd, 2001 at 4:12 pm
Have you spoken to him and asked him why he hides it. Most men will do this because it is dirty. It is like looking at a Playboy. Men are visual people. We do not look at this the same way as men. I don’t like it either, but have come to the conclusion, they are going to do it either way. As long as it is not habitual or leading to cheating. Hope this helps. GOOD LUCK
February 4th, 2001 at 6:54 pm
No. Married 18 years. I’m the one who teases him when women in bikinis come on, and make comments about ***** - he could care less. He’s only got googly eyes for me. Cool!
February 5th, 2001 at 12:04 pm
Go to the christian book store and get him the book titled Every man’s battle (it’s a series dont know author) just give them the name of the book and they can find it. This situation is very common unfortunatly it’s almost a male diease and it’s a very big problem (it can lead to unfaithfulness) Let him know you will not tolerate it. And so you know it has NOTHING to do with the way you look like I said it’s almost a disease in a way. There are parts in the book for you to read as well to help you understand what he’s going through ( I cried when I read the wife parts and actually felt very sorry for all men and what they go through) We as women have to stand up for our men and fight this battle that is devouring them!